Let's Talk About It
There are still many taboos with regards to setting boundaries or talking about sexually transgressive behavior. ‘No’ is often considered unfriendly, a buzzkill or an invitation for more flirtation. When is ‘no’ really ‘no’? Setting boundaries and respecting them starts with awareness. Student associations, clubs that students frequent and especially universities can play a big part in this. The fact that so few students do not know who to turn to after having experienced sexual harassment, is very problematic. Not only the act of sexual transgression itself, but the aftermath can also be traumatizing. Was it me? What could I have done differently? Sexual misconduct can be reported to confidential counsellors at the university. Still, many students do not know about this.
Student organizations can play a bigger part in raising awareness as well. At the beginning of the academic year there are introduction weeks where more attention can be given to sexual violence. In Leiden, this introduction week is called the EL CID. During this week, first-year students get to know the city, the university and student life. After this general introduction week, the new students have an introduction week organized by their study program. All new students are assigned to a mentor group with a mentor and student mentors who help them find their way. These introduction weeks offer a good opportunity to raise awareness about sexual misconduct during student life. Especially first-year students can be easily overwhelmed by everything that student life has to offer. It is very important for them to have a base image of where the boundaries are and how to maintain them. Only by raising awareness will students think more when performing sexual acts.